What makes fairytales so attractive? I am a cynical, practical girl, yet I love a good fairytale. I know that based on statistics almost one-half of all marriages eventually end in divorce. So why do we still buy into this undying love, meeting "the one", finding our soul mate, and falling in love business? Actually, I think that we are addicted to falling in love. I mean who doesn’t like that new feeling of being pursued and having somebody love you more than life itself. When we first fall in love we are willing to change how we dress, where we live, what we eat, our religion, etc. When we fall in love, we can move mountains, cross the ocean, and go to the moon and back; then we write a song about it.
I wonder if watching and reading all these fairytales are harming our psyches. Do they just help us escape from the nasty now and now or are they making us hope and wish for a different reality? We have allowed ourselves to become completely controlled by our feelings. The problem is that our emotions are fickle. One moment, I want ice cream and the next, I want to go to the beach, and then later I just want to go to sleep. Our wants, emotions, and feelings are causing us to lose grip with reality and screw up the lives we have.
So take a look in the mirror and embrace the zits, the gray hairs, the bulges and the stray facial hairs. Love the life you have and the one you are with. Realize that the grass still has to be mowed on the other side, and you can’t hire a Gardner. Our relationships are shaping our world, and by tossing them away so easily, we are teaching our children to not commit to anything that doesn’t feel good. The old adage, "if it feels good, do it" is just not working out for us. Sometimes you have to do it because it’s right, and the feelings will follow.
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